The Happiness I Aim For

I was happy till I started comparing myself to others. I was happy even in suffering, now I’m unhappy even in luxury. Society hinted to me that there’s a right kind of person, and this is the kind of person you should always look for outside of yourself. That success is a relative term, on a defined (and ever-increasing) base of comparison. And the parameters that make up this base are to be looked for in others. If someone you know has a total of 3 skills, you are unsuccessful if you have only 2; and hence, you are (or should be) unhappy. Every little part that you are made of has a kind of SI unit, a defined (near perfect) specimen that your part must be weighed against. It could be something as small as a nose, or as big as the colour of the skin that covers your whole body. Trying to be a good physicist and trying to reduce the error between the defined absolute and your measured imperfect value, you will forever be suffering.

To be happy, you just need your karma, dharma and santushti to be harmonised. Meaning what you do should satisfy you, without conflicting with your morals and sense of duty.

How I can like a person I dislike – My Inner Thought Process

Every time I think I dislike a person, I remind myself why I shouldn’t.

Why I should try to like that person: There are more than 7 billion people on earth and the number of people I’d have meaningful relations or social interactions (meaningful enough for them to bother me) in my whole life will be what? Definitely less than a thousand. That’s a very small number compared to the number of individuals living and breathing on the planet I reside in. So many persons I will live and die without knowing. So why not choose to stay in harmony with those few that are sent into my surroundings for me to know?

There are some people I like because of the part they play in my life, in improving my life’s quality, and others I like for the part they play in my existence on earth.