How to Deal With Crappy People

Beautiful article! Thank you Mr JAMES ALTUCHER and Thought Catalog 🙂

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Ugh, I’m disgusted with my brain. I see people walking down the street and there’s like this killer inside me providing running nasty commentary about each person. Do you do this also?

I have to stop myself often: “You don’t know this person who is randomly crossing the street. You can’t possibly know that he’s a cheating lying rich Hamptons-worshipping whoremongering obnoxious trust fund baby with a 17-year-old mistress on the side who doesn’t wipe, who doesn’t wash, who would wish nothing better than to see you die.” You can’t know that! So why do I think it? Most people crossing the street probably think that about me also. Who is that freak? Is he homeless? Why can’t he comb his hair? Why is his fly open? Is he a child molesting pervert?

Most people are pretty crappy. But not all. And even the ones who are no good and…

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Things that are/aren’t Right

1. Being non-judgmental: It isn’t right because it doesn’t exist. Do you think highly of people who judge others? I don’t think so. If you dislike someone judging another, you just disliked a person for doing something not directly harmful to you. You know what you did? You judged the other person. Your head said this, ‘he judges others, he is bad’.

2. Being Judgmental: So are you a perfect human-being? Do you even need to answer that? I don’t know who defined ‘perfect’ in this highly relative world. People judge because they have imperfect lives, and they think that by pointing out others’ shortcomings, they can improve theirs, or simply because deep down, they are envious of some aspect of the target person.

3. Being Indifferent: Not being judgmental doesn’t mean you become indifferent, you just have to think before reaching conclusions, and think again before taking an action.

4. Learning from other’s mistakes: Our parents’/elders tell us to learn from their mistakes. This is neither very practical, nor necessary. Some one comes and tells you something/someone is bad, your first reaction would be to dislike the target object, avoid it. But take your own chance in the person or thing in question. Most people/things/events are relative. People differ in different situations. Their behaviour toward you depends a lot on your behaviour toward them. Make your own mistakes.

5. Taking things seriously: We all have lives, and they get difficult at times. Do silly things. Abuse someone, have a fight, break furniture even. Apologise to yourself and any other person who got hurt, don’t go apologising to the world, Society does dictate a lot of our behaviour, but if we start with these little changes, society could be more forgiving, a little chilled out.

6. Not taking anything seriously: So you are super-cool? Great. But sometimes, your coolness isn’t enough for the people around you. Sometimes people notice little things in your behaviour toward them, so be just a little more thoughtful of the other individual’s feelings.

7. Gender Roles: Feminists and others who protest about random things to bring change in the society, have you seen the biology of yourself? Men and women have completely different bodies, we’d all look the same if we were not supposed to have gender roles. Men have big muscles because they were originally responsible for hunting etc, while the women would rear the progeny. But also, we are not in 21st century b.c., and most of the work men and women do today is take a car/bus to the work-place, sit on a chair, think and write. Apart from some professions, none of the two are using much muscle power. So, feminists, go on! 😛

8. Slim and beautiful: This is crazy wrong. Slim is not beautiful. For more details, watch a video/read an article on how our bodies are structured, what they are meant to do, and what role genes play in all this. Healthy is beautiful, and it is not necessarily synonymous with Slim.

All this is super-confusing, articles on the internet can’t mould perfect behaviour, only real life experience can! 🙂