(Don’t) Face Your Fears

Can’t sit on the giant wheel, don’t. Some people define fun as sitting on the giant wheel, some as watching the waves on a beach. Can’t talk to that person, don’t. Some people have a phobia, a genuine fear of something, you can’t make them do that, because in most cases, facing the phobia can have adverse effects. So why force people to face other fears/problems. They say you shouldn’t run from them, because there’s only so much you can run from, at the end of it all, you’ll have to face your fears, because it’s a vicious cycle, which ends only when you face your fears. Okay, I agree you’ll have to face some fear sometime, that doesn’t mean you have to face every fear all the time. I believe that if facing something gives you stress, don’t! Giving yourself unnecessary stress isn’t bravery, it’s stupidity. I say run, avoid those things as long as you can, without ever thinking about them.

But there are some things that until we are faced with, keeps scaring us. We stay in constant stress about how we are going to act when faced with this thing etc. It happens to me sometimes, I just wish I was faced with it, so that I could just deal with it, and get rid of all that anxiety. If that’s the case with you, then I pray a situation comes that you have to face the fear. But rest, you don’t really have to face.

Sweetest Tough Person

The other night me and my friend were walking near the hostel gate after dinner. Somebody’s shift got over and that person was about to go home. It’s a girls’ hostel so we assume that everyone who comes in and goes out of it is a female, unless otherwise mentioned. So I joked to my friend that when the gate is opened, we’ll run away from the hostel(girls always complain how their curfew is too early, though I’d disagree). The security guard was sitting there listening, with another woman, or maybe there were two other, can’t remember. The guard told us she’d catch us, and told the other woman that girls these days don’t eat their chapatis, they have no strength to beat her.

The other afternoon I was sitting near the gate all by myself, like I do sometimes, and the same security guard, having seen me come and sit there all by myself for a few minutes, came to me and asked, “कोई परेशानी गुडिया ?”, meaning, “is there something wrong, dear child?”. I said no, she asked me again, then I said no and smiled, she asked whether I was sure, I nodded and she went to check with some girls standing outside the gate.

I’m the Rotten Apple of the Bunch

While walking today, I saw a tree with young fruits growing on it. . .Do you know why they say a rotten apple in a basket spoils all? Well it’s a true saying. But everyone tells you this, does anyone tell you that that rotten apple is probably the one which helped the other apples ripe in the first place? The tree I saw was a banana tree and I think everyone who ever happened to see the huge bunch of bananas on it could easily distinguish that one banana which already ripened before the others and was now beginning to rot. That instant I had this thought how that poor rotting apple is shown in such bad light, while the truth is that had it not been for that rotting fruit, the other fruits might not ripen as early as they did. Anyone who knows and remembers a little Biology will understand what I’m saying. What happens is that ripening of every fruit has to occur, this is because the plant has to spread its seeds, because at the end of the day, every species on this earth exists with one aim, that is to spread itself, produce its own kind, as they say in books. As the seed is inside the sturdy fruit, it can’t come out till the fruit softens and dies out. The ripening process involves certain enzymes that breakdown the different compounds in the fruit, and all this is mainly triggered and carried forward with the help of this gaseous hormone called Ethylene or Ethylene oxide.

In some one or two fruits out of the bunch, this occurs before the others. And this fruit then produces immense amounts of Ethylene that travels in air to those other fruits and helps in their ripening. But because this fruit is already producing so much of it before those other fruits, the amylases, proteases and all the other enzymes that are breaking down all its compounds, so it finally rots while they, the other fruits, ripen. And if you don’t take it out of the bunch, it will continue to produce Ethylene and cause rotting of the others, hence, it’s gotten rid of.

We can learn so much from nature. What already exist, that which man did not create, is the most intelligent in this world. We pick only what we want to, that’s our perception. That one person who matures before that others, and helps the others mature into their full gracious form is the one who rots before them, and is then loathed and gotten rid of.

How many of you have helped someone (maybe during a difficult situation), made them better people or made their situation better, gone out of your way to protect them and make them look good, only to be shunned when you needed someone? The best personification of this apple-metaphor is that of a parent. Don’t worry if these bad things happen to you, remember, this is the rule of nature…you just have to play along.

But remember this little article the next time you call someone the rotten apple of the bunch.